Mary Ellen Zung

Putting Myself Out There

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I know I killed my gut bacteria over decades of drinking diet soda, eating processed food containing artificial sweeteners, food dyes, and chemicals banned in other countries, eating white and even whole wheat bread, and using vegetable oil in cooking.  I am now at a point after four years of eliminating these foods, as well as dairy products, and healing my gut with fermented foods and probiotic supplements that I have better digestive health, more energy, and no more food cravings.  It might seem to some a bit extreme to cook all fresh foods, mostly organic, not to eat gluten, dairy or factory farmed meats, but when you are unhealthy and find your way to better health, this is what I want to do to be and stay healthy.



No doctor helped me with this transformation.  It was a health coach who had a similar background as I had who offered me an elimination diet and I was enlightened!  That led me to attend nutrition school to study and become a health coach myself.  Over the course of that year in school, I was my own experiment in trying different foods, learning about pesticides, oils, factory farming, acid/ alkaline balance, mindfulness, and so much more.  I discovered I had IBS, Leaky gut, candidiasis, and have a dairy and gluten allergy or sensitivity.  No doctor confirmed this or did any medical tests, I just healed myself with the information I learned and knowledge I gained. 

 

Through my health coaching practice, I have helped other people with these and other health issues including lowering cholesterol and avoiding needing to take medication, losing weight, no longer needing medications for rheumatoid arthritis, depression, poor sleep, and high blood pressure, clearing up skin conditions, feeling more energy, improving relationships with loved ones, and more.

 

Why am I telling you this?  I am a pretty private person and laying this all out there for everyone to read and know about me is a bit unnerving, but I want people to know what is possible with health coaching.  When you decide to work with a health coach, you are not buying a product, you are buying your future health and happiness, but you have to do the work too.  There is no magic pill for health and happiness.  Each one of us is so unique and a health coach is your trusted confidant and helper along the journey. The relationship with your health coach is like no other.  Your health coach not only looks at symptoms and illness or disease like your medical doctor would, but also looks at behaviors, beliefs, hopes, and even fears and emotional pain.

 

I became a health coach to help people feel better, remove pain and suffering, achieve happiness, and live life to their true potential.  I am so proud to be a health coach.  It sounds miraculous but it is not, it is just getting clear on what you want, and having support and help to get there.

Mary Ellen Zung

Better To Be At Peace Than Right

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Which is better, being right or being at peace?  My husband and I just recently celebrated our 20th wedding anniversary. Through the years we’ve had our share of arguments and disagreements.  We have a joke about remembering the address of our first apartment.  He insisted he was right about the street number and I insisted I was right about it.  One year when we went back to the apartment and visited we discovered who was right, and every time I turn out to be right about something, he repeats the address – just an inside joke that he acknowledges sometimes I am right. 

 

In the middle of a conflict with a friend or loved one it is easy to lose perspective and forget this question of being right or being at peace.  It can mean the difference between nurturing a relationship and damaging it.  And with practice you can create healthy relationship habits that carry through even the toughest of times.



Here are three simple tips for coping with conflict:

 

Keep the conversation solution-centered.

Many times in an argument both people push each other to only see the problem – one person harps on a mistake or a bad habit, and the other person becomes defensive of their behavior.  Instead focus on positive solutions that will minimize drama and place you and your loved one on the same team, not pitted against each other.  Sometimes agreeing to wait and discuss the issue at another time when each person has ad a chance to calm down, think about the problem and possible solutions or compromises, and come back to discuss it at a later time.

 

Conflicts repeat themselves.

Many arguments grow from a reoccurring conflict.  Perhaps you and your loved one fundamentally disagree on a sensitive subject, or they handle situations differently and it rubs you the wrong way.  Engrained differences in character and perspective can lead to a loop of endless arguments.  Fighting about it again and again does not usually resolve the root of the problem.

Try bringing the conversation to the next level – acknowledge that you both may never be on the same page about the issue.
 
How can you create a pattern that’s productive and supports the relationship?  Is one of you willing to compromise on this problem?  Or perhaps you can agree to trade-off so one person isn’t carrying the entire burden of the problem.

 

Forgiveness.

Sincere forgiveness can be a tremendous relief and a simple strategy to overcome conflict. Remember everyone is human, makes mistakes, and comes into their relationships with a different perception of the world and their place in it.  Take your entire relationship with this person into consideration and ask, “Is focusing on this conflict good for me? Will the relationship progress with this conflict?”  If the answer is no, simple forgiveness might be the answer.